essence of Christian life is loving God and loving neighbor. Out of centuries of this tradition of communities choosing their communal habits carefully, a new phrase began to grow: “the school of love.” All kinds of spiritual communities have used this phrase since, and with good reason. The most Christian way to think about our households is that they are little “schools of love,” places where we have one vocation, one calling: to form all who live here into lovers of God and neighbor. This is not